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When Ewan and Greg ordered the Double Arrows design ketubah with stars and bright colors, we knew this was going to be a fun and exicting wedding theme. The air travel wedding theme was a perfect way to show their trans-Atlantic long-distance relationship for over 7 years! The wedding was beautifully captured by Ross Willsher Photography.
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A beautiful modern wedding in Philadelphia. Our modern Geometric silver papercut ketubah was the perfect fit for this stunning color scheme. Mallory and Brian's wedding was beautifully photographed by Spark Photography.
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We love the farm look of Tori and Dan's wedding at The Barn at Gibbet Hill, in Groton, Massachusetts. Our Trellis papercut ketubah fit in perfectly with the natural landscape of the ceremony, and the chuppah canopy surrounded by eucalyptus leaves. Their wedding was beautifully photographed by Birch Blaze Photography.
by Jennifer for Smashing The Glass
Jennifer and Charlie
5th August 2018
Mayfair, London, UK
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OUR WEDDING, OUR WAY
We spoke with our Rabbi and he reminded us that this is our wedding; our commitment to each other and however we want our day to be is up to us! We started to look at all the elements of a Jewish wedding, in order to decide how to represent our personalities and beliefs within it. Charlie and I poured over hundreds of ketubah texts, but could not find one that truly suited us. They were either too religious, or too liberal! So we decided to write our own and it could not have been a more connecting or emotional experience, especially when it arrived from Jennifer Raichman. I cannot wait to have it proudly displayed in our home.
AN EGALITARIAN WEDDING
I have always had a very strong sense of my Jewish identity. I grew up as a member of Belsize Square Synagogue. I sang in the choir, taught in the Cheder and really understood what it was to be part of a community. Belsize Square is an independent Synagogue, with a modern, egalitarian approach to Judaism, which is important for Charlie and I to reflect at our wedding. Charlie joined at the beginning of this year and has also fallen in love with the unique character of the Synagogue. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to have a Jewish wedding, and this is something I love about our religion, it can be interpreted whilst respecting tradition. For us, having an egalitarian wedding is paramount.
CLOSE FRIENDS OVER BRIDESMAIDS
One of my first decisions was that I would not be having a maid of honour or bridesmaids. I simply could not choose between all of my wonderful friends or choose all of them and have a huge procession! Instead, I asked each of my closest female friends to do something specific for our wedding that played to their strengths. I have a friend who knows everything about fashion and she has helped me find the most beautiful wedding dress. Two of my most wonderfully organised and fun girls are planning my hen, and I have other friends signing our ketubah and Civil Registry. My sister will be with me the night before the wedding and when I get ready in the morning, as I was at her wedding. In this way, I feel that everyone who is important to me has an active role, and hopefully something to look forward to!
‘VEILING’ THE GROOM
I had read a wonderful article on Smashing the Glass with ideas for an egalitarian wedding and I loved the idea of ‘veiling’ the groom. Our Rabbi had already suggested instead of buying Charlie a watch or cufflinks for the big day, to purchase something more meaningful, such as a new tallit. When he said this, I had a wonderful vision of Charlie seeing me for the first time in the badeken, veiling me and I in turn ‘veiling’ him in his tallit. I bought him a beautiful tallit from Jerusalem and I have to admit we have been practising the veiling! It is much harder to put a tallit onto someone else than yourself!
JUST US UNDER THE CHUPPAH
When I imagined getting married, I always heard beautiful, traditional music being played during the ceremony. We are very lucky that our cantor Paul Heller will be singing for us. Charlie is a huge classical music fan, so we have been working closely with the cantor and the director of music at Belsize to ensure the melodies we both love are married together perfectly. During the ceremony, we only wish to stand under the chuppah with the Rabbi. For us, it is very meaningful that the chuppah represents our Jewish home and we will be inviting our parents into it for Kiddushin.
TO CIRCLE OR NOT
I’ve read about so many different ways that circling can be done. Charlie and I did think about circling each other and in the end we decided it wasn’t an element that applied to us, especially as everyone knows I wear the trousers in our relationship (or at least Charlie does an excellent job letting me think that I do). We do have an equal relationship and although there are many interpretations of what circling means, we feel it doesn’t reflect our dynamic.
Rachel and Joseph's wedding was uniquely themed at the San Deigo Zoo Safari Park. Our Trellis papercut ketubah fit in perfectly with the silver/botanical color choices. Their wedding was beautifully photographed by Chelsea Anne.
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